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Sexual Behaviors - K-4th
Understanding What is Normal & When to Be Concerned
Green Light: Natural & Expected
- Curious about genitals, breasts, intercourse, babies, takes opportunity to see nude people including pictures
- Watching/peeking at people during bathroom functions
- Uses "dirty" words for bathroom functions, sex, and genitals
- Plays doctor, inspecting other people's bodies
- Interested in babies and birth
- Interested in showing/touching "privates" to other children and having his/her seen/touched by children of the same age
- Interested in urination and defecation
- Touches/rubs own genitalia when going to sleep, tense, excited, or afraid. (Soothing mechanism)
- Find opposite gender children "gross" or have "cooties," plays chasing games
- Plays house and simulates all roles of mommy and daddy
- Talks about sex with peers, having a "boy" or "girl" friend, plays games with peers related to sex and sexuality
- More concerned about personal privacy in bathroom/changing clothes
- Draws genitals on human figures for artistic expression/figure is being portrayed nude
- Pretends to be the opposite gender
- Kisses familiar adults and children, allows kisses by same
Yellow Light: Of Concern
- Has fear/anxiety about sex or sexual topics
- Continues to get caught watching others during bathroom functions
- Continues using "dirty" words despite being told no, being punished, parents using appropriate language themselves
- Frequently plays doctor despite being told no
- Uses "dirty" language when other children complain
- Sex talk gets child in trouble, makes sexual sounds such as moans or sighs, romanticizes relationships
- Becomes very upset when seen in bathroom/changing clothes
- Continuous fascination with genitals, nude pictures, seeing nude people, drawing genitals on some nude figures but not all and some on clothed figures with disproportionate genitals
- Wants to be opposite gender
- Wants to play games with much younger/older children related to sex and sexuality
- Wants to compare genitals to much younger/older people
- Continuously wants to touch "private parts" of other children, tries to engage in oral, anal, or vaginal sex
- French kissing-talks in a sexualized manner to others, fearful of hugs and kisses by adults, gets upset with public displays of affection, kisses unfamiliar adults or children